A Little Advice for All the Single Ladies

As cupid begins his decent for our annual Love Day, I thought it might be a good time to impart a some of my relationship wisdom to all of the ladies who may feel particularly vulnerable this time of year.  Not that I am an expert by any means.  The hubby and I have been together for about 12 years now, and honestly I think that is mostly due to many sacrifices and a whole lot of tongue biting.  But there is one thing I do know when it comes to dating and that is chemistry.

The other day I overheard my husband talking to a girl friend about whether a guy she is seeing is into her or not.  It reminded me what it can be like to be single or single-ish, especially when nearing February.  Even when you are okay with it, or gasp! happy about it, this season seems to give everyone around you free reign to make you feel empty and inadequate.  If I could coin one golden rule of dating advice for women it would be this: Don’t. Settle.  If you have been on three or more dates with a guy and you are asking whether or not he is into you, I can say without any further details that he really isn’t.

Men are conquerors.  They get something in their head and won’t stop until it is accomplished or all avenues to it have been exhausted.  So when you are dating a guy who is into you, for the first few months he will be like an excited little puppy dog.  If he’s not, then he is most likely just looking to pass the time with you.  Every successful couple I know started out with the man in hot pursuit.  When we first started seeing each other, I am fairly certain my husband would have given me a kidney to secure a second date.  {Now I can’t even get him to skip Wednesday night basketball…}  That is not to say that you can’t be forward or ask a guy out.  But once you have spent a little time together, his intentions should be evident.

It doesn’t matter how amazing you are, some people just don’t click.  I know many funny, beautiful and successful women who just haven’t found anyone to click with yet.  But I have no doubt that they will.  And what a shame it would be for them to get stuck with or waste their emotions on a guy who thinks that they are anything but precious.

And Ladies…until Mr. Click comes along; enjoy your clean bathroom, the ability to make unilateral decisions and the right to sit around in your pajamas on Saturday 😉  Soon they will all be gone.

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